A month ago, I turned 21. I still can’t believe that I’m a young adult now, and I’m out of my teenage years. Actually, I haven’t even notice that I’m no longer a teen until during my birthday. I have been busy for the past two years, that’s why I missed living life.
Two months ago, I was sadden by the fact that I’m getting old. But i realized it’s for the best. I might be getting old, biologically speaking, but i feel so youthful.
People are getting too anxious of aging. I guess everyone must embrace it because as the saying goes “Aging is like a fine wine, it get’s better with time.”
I believed that as a person grows older, he or she encounters new experiences which will mold them into a better man. The past year was full of ups and downs. I lived independently in a place far from home, I kind of broke up with somebody (well, technically, we were never in a relationship or commitment), I met and made new friends, I joined a national quiz show (we ranked 3rd!), I lose a friend, I graduated and I passed the licensure exam.
It’s probably too late but 21 years needed some time for reflection. And here’s a list of what I’ve learned:
- Let God be your sailor. Nothing can go wrong in God’s plan and time.
I have to admit that I am not a religious person. Back then, I had doubts on my faith. But it all changed when I was in grave fear. I started talking to God again. And I felt his presence.
- You can only depend on yourself. Don’t count on others, at the end of the day you can rely to yourself alone.
Group projects or studies? Just big jokes. People will disappoint you and they will not do what you ask them for. People will turn down your favors, so just do it yourself.
- Save yourself from toxic people. You don’t need people who poison your lives. Let go of those that give you all the blame, those that are too haughty, those who cannot let their pride down, those who always play the ‘victim’, those who lie and cheat, those who make fun of you, those that make the atmosphere heavy, those who pull you down and those who don’t appreciate you. You don’t need them.
I had this friend. She was my first girl best friend. But it was over now. It’s because of her pride. We had this misunderstanding that I don’t wanna talk to her because I was studying for my exam, and she was done studying and she kept telling me gossips and asked me to watch a movie with her. I got fed up and told her that I don’t want to because I’m still studying with a topic. And suddenly she stopped talking to me. I approached her and talked to her about things I did during the weekend. Just to expressed that nothing’s wrong. But she won’t talk to me. She never approach me. I mean, does she expect me to approach and talk to her, all the time? And the best part was she told others her own version, she was blaming me that I stopped talking to her. She’s always playing the victim. Can’t she see, that’s why people, other than me, stopped talking and hanging out with her is because she’s toxic. Okay, I’ll play the bad guy. Just to clear it out, I stopped talking to her for NO REASON at all. Really, just believe her. She’s lonely.
- Save something for yourself. You don’t need to give it all for someone. You deserve to be loved.
I used to give my eveything to someone. And it caused me pain that he didn’t appreciate my efforts and how much I loved him. I depended on the idea of love alone. I depended my happiness on him. But I realize that we are responsible for our happiness and we must leave a room for ourself.
- You can cry. It is okay. Sometimes, life will knocked you hard to the point that you don’t want to get out of bed, because you’ve had enough. Let it out, you don’t need to hold it in. Stop pretending that everthing’s fine. But I tell you at this point, you will be fine, soon. Believe me.
- Never stop learning. Meet new people, study a new language, read books, travel and embrace different culture and traditions. Be active and don’t just sit around and watch 24/7.
- You can’t please everyone, so hold your head high and be yourself. It’s okay to be different. Just because people are into to bandwagon, it doesn’t mean that you have to. Be yourself.
Some people call me names, even my mother does. She labeled me as “anti-social”. Others call me “nerd”. Maybe because of my “I love being on my own” nature. I’m not anti-social or a nerd. I just don’t like socializing and I don’t like parties. I’m an introvert. I’d rather watch my favorite vloggers, Jhouse vlogs, cook or bake, read books, do my journal or just talk to my cousins. I don’t really have much friends, because my interests are quite peculiar for others. But I’m contented because I’m just being me without pretending to be someone else.
- Nothing comes easy. One must work hard to get fruitful results. A person who can read this had a lot of training back then when he or she is still learning to pronounce each syllables. It took hardwork to understand each words. Thus allowing him or her to comprehesively read a text.
Graduating with flying colors and passing the licensure exam took a lot of hardwork, tears and prayers. Discipline, sleepless nights, obesity (I ate too much during those days and I stopped working out cause I was really busy), sacrifices and pimples, are all worth it.
- Conquer your fear and defeat your worries. Nothing good happens when you worry and fear. You’re just gonna stress yourself out. Remember that if you believe in it, it will happen.
“Fear can defeat life”
If you fear and worry about the future, you may as well stop living your life. It immobilizes you. Defeat this negativity and have faith.
- “Above all, don’t lose hope.” -Life of Pi
I won’t be a hypocrite, but I once lose my hope of graduating on time. It was one of the hardest times of being a student. The deadline was coming and we don’t have any research thesis yet. But thanks to my great friend, Ron, he insisted that we finish what we started and that we should graduate on time. It was a happy ending because our study got the highest mark during the research defense. And we graduated on time.